(And that stands whether the person is your potential partner, fiancé, or FWB!)Īll that said, notes Lehmiller, one of the main signs of love is an intimate, emotional connection that develops over time through shared experiences and self-disclosure. “Others express it through actions.”įinally, the best way to find out what someone is feeling for you is n-e-v-e-r to run down a checklist of behaviors and characteristics. “Some express their love through words,” he says. Second, people express love in different ways. “While you can experience love without lust or lust without love, it’s possible to experience both at the same time ,” Lehmiller says. “So, if you get heart palpitations every time you see this other person, you feel a rush of excitement from even the slightest touch of your bodies, and you can’t stop fantasizing about them sexually, it’s probably lust,” he says.īy contrast, “if you find yourselves disclosing personal details to each other that you don’t normally share, you’re providing each other with emotional support, you’re integrating them into your life, and you’re thinking about your future together, it’s probably love.”īasically, if you have a connection that transcends physical attraction, it could be love.Īre there really signs to look for to determine what someone else is feeling?įor starters, lust and love aren’t mutually exclusive. “Lust is primarily about physical excitement and craving for someone else,” Lehmiller explains.
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